Thoughts/Prayer request

[davilarose]

Nicnak -sending hugs your way....So sorry for the loss of your grandmother. Will keep you and your family in my thoughts and prayers.

[sweetlikemeli]

Nov 18, 2011 21:33:44 GMT -5 nicnak96 said:

Everybody tells me that I remind them of her...All of the wierd little habits we all have...I have been told many times everyday that all of hers live on pretty much exactly, through me....

For example (Don't judge me on these weird things please!!)-Only eating spaghetti, no other pasta, and it must be swimming in sauce
-LOVING shoes, and I mean the amazing high heel, Italian/Brazilian shoes (SHe never wore what you would think a typical grandma would wear for shoes)
-Really enjoy wraping presents (Christmas, birthday, etc.)
-Always keeping a stash of money and hiding it "for a rainy day"
Covering mashed potatoes with gravy (I know, that bad for you, but what can you do?)
-remembering all sorts of numbers for no reason at all
-Always having to have the last word in an argument and having to be right (so when we disagreed, it never ended...)
-Being stuborn
-and many more...

I am very lucky to have so many memories with her, but it has been rough, especially bc. I was at her bedside when she passed.

nicnak we all pick up habits from our relatives and get told that we remind them of them from the little things we might do / say....it's what makes us who we are......It's what connects us to family to our past and continues into our future....
Don't ever think that I will judge you let alone everyone else on here....
You were lucky to have had her live with you....To grow up with both a grandma & a great grandma...The memories you have made will last forever....So look back on them laugh , cry & most importantly share them.....Take care my friend...
Thinking of you, sending you a big Hug your way....

[jox3347]

Nicnak, those are the wonderful traditions and memories that continue to give us a connection to those who have passed on. This is a normal part of grieving. I know for myself, if I let go of anything, it means that they are gone from me forever. Simply not true. The holidays are a difficult to go through when their is an empty chair at the table. I have always honored that person by setting a place for them at the table and placing a single rose on their plate. I wish you comfort during this time and lots of ((((hugs))))